Let This Be the Year You Start Loving Your Life

by Tracie Miles January 24, 2022
“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.” John 10:10 (ESV)
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Sometimes on the road of life, we come across an unexpected bump that derails our plans and shatters our hopes.

Or maybe we simply wake up and realize the life we are living is not the one we expected, much less the one we wanted. As a result, we feel unhappy, joyless and discontent.

The day came a few years ago when I found myself feeling exactly that way due to enduring a painful separation and divorce. My life had been shattered, as well as my heart, and I was having a hard time finding the strength to feel joy — or even believe life could ever be good again.

Maybe you, too, have experienced a painful divorce, or you thought you’d be married by now but are still single. Or you had a dream crushed after years of pursuing it. Perhaps you stayed at a job for years, building your retirement fund, only for the company to go bankrupt and take down your life savings with it. Possibly you’ve experienced the heartbreak of infertility when you planned on having a full house. Maybe your loved one died far too soon, leaving you feeling alone and lost. Or it could be that you were struck with an illness that limits your abilities and independence. 

Or possibly nothing life-changing has happened at all. And that’s the problem. Same ol’ circumstances, different day, new year.

In any case, we may find ourselves thinking, Surely there has to be more to life than this.

Oh, friend, there is. And in our key verse, we find out what that “more” is.

In the first part of today’s key verse, Jesus explains there is a thief who “comes only to steal and kill and destroy” (John 10:10a). Not necessarily physically but also mentally, emotionally and spiritually. This enemy wants us to feel discouraged with the way life has turned out. He wants us to feel so beaten down by circumstances that we succumb to the false belief that we can’t be happy if our life isn’t exactly as we think it should be. Of course, this enemy is the father of lies, the devil.

Yet in the second part of John 10:10, Jesus declares exactly the opposite to be true of Himself. He came to earth so we could not only have life but be empowered to choose to live life abundantly despite the thief’s intentions. Jesus said, “I came that they may have life and have it abundantly,” or as another translation says, “I have come in order that you might have life—life in all its fullness” (John 10:10, GNT). Here we see the stark contrast between the destroyer of happiness and the Giver of joy.

A new year is underway, and maybe you are feeling disgruntled, discouraged or joyless due to how life isn’t living up to your expectations. Maybe you’ve lost hope that loving and enjoying your life is possible, and you feel blinded to the opportunities a new year may hold.

Trust me, I understand. Several times, I’ve turned the calendar over to a new year while I felt filled with grief, disappointment and fear. Believing with all my heart and mind I would never be able to feel truly happy again, much less love my life.

Yet over time, through a lot of prayers, tears and faith, God helped me see and accept that, although I couldn’t change my circumstances, I could change my attitude and how I lived each day. I finally realized I have been given one life to live — this life — and I can either continue to allow adversities and the actions of other people to have power over my happiness or I can embrace God’s promise for abundant life and make it a reality in my own.

Although my life wasn’t the one I wanted or imagined, choosing to learn to love my life was the best choice I’ve ever made. It wasn’t always easy, but as I intentionally asked Jesus to be the source of my joy — even in the midst of less-than-joyful circumstances — my outlook and attitude changed for the better.

Friend, no matter what you’re going through, loving life is a choice, not a byproduct of everything going your way. The life you are living today is the life God has given you, and in Christ, your life has abundant potential. Our peace, joy, contentment and fulfillment depend on the choices we make.

You see, your happiness is up to you. And this could be your best year yet.

Dear Jesus, fill me with joy and a refreshed perspective. I want this to be my best year yet, no matter my circumstances. In Your Name, Amen.


If you’re longing to make this year the best it can be and need some tips for getting started, check out Tracie Miles’ book Love Life Again: Finding Joy When Life Is Hard 


If separation and divorce are currently keeping you from loving your life, as was the case for Tracie a few years ago, visit Tracie’s blog to watch a brief video about her new book — Living Unbroken: A Divorce Recovery Workbook — and seven-week video teaching series for women-only small group studies! CLICK HERE to pre-order the participant workbook before February 28 and find out how to receive the free small group Leaders Guide, Session 1 teaching video and the first-session workbook content to preview before release!

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Psalm 90:12, “Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” (NIV)

How might this year be different if you intentionally choose joy over discontentment and begin looking at life with a new perspective?

We’d love to hear from you! Share your thoughts in the comments.

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